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Compatibility: Aquarius and Aquarius

Two Aquarians give each other what each looked for in others: freedom without explanations and a conversation partner who will not take offense at “I need to be alone for a while.” But no one will be first to say “I miss you” — each waits for the other to say it.

Two Aquarians meet on the level of ideas: the first evening easily becomes a night-long talk about how the world should be arranged. For the first time each meets a person who does not demand an explanation of quirks, is not frightened by unconventional views, and does not take offense at “I need to be alone for a while.” Friendship lies at the base of such a union more firmly than any passion, and the pair usually knows each other as a conversation partner before knowing each other as a partner.

What both have in equal measure is where the friction lies. Both are stubborn in their convictions: an argument over principles may last for years, and neither will retreat, because retreating from principles is not done. Both withdraw into distance when it is hard, and neither says first “I feel bad” — each waits for the other to guess or to propose a talk. As a result the pair has plenty of respect and little of the warmth each quietly wants. A way out is to adopt daily tenderness as a rule: if it is a rule, there is no shame in following it.

In love

The relationship begins as friendship and stays one for a long time: shared ideas, projects, interesting people, arguments. Both express feelings with restraint, and from outside the pair can look cold, though inside it is different. Freedom in the relationship is a sacred value: nobody demands accounts or asks where the other has been. That liberates and at the same time leaves a hunger for closeness. An evening every week is needed when both set ideas aside and ask: “how are you, really?”

In marriage and daily life

Ideas live in the home of two Aquarians: unusual furniture, shelves of books, strange gadgets, friends at any hour of the day. Roles are assigned by the principle “who is better at it,” not by tradition, and that works while each honestly does their part. Chores — bills, cleaning, dull errands — easily end up belonging to nobody, because both find them uninteresting; a list with owners and deadlines helps here. In an atmosphere of freedom and questions the children grow; they need warmth too, not only respect for themselves as individuals.

In friendship

The best friends and kindred spirits: together they create clubs, projects and communities, go to lectures and argue about the future. Each rejoices in the other’s success without envy and will back the strangest idea. Silence may feel like an offense: one disappears into a project for weeks and the other reads it as lost interest. Reaching out without a reason is what holds this friendship together.

At work and with money

Together they invent systems, technologies and projects for society and offer unexpected solutions. They are strong in science, IT, education, design, civic initiatives and journalism. Both love autonomy, so they work best in parallel zones toward a shared goal. Conflict arises when both defend their own version and no one yields; the remedy is an outside arbiter or the rule “first we try one person’s idea, then the other’s.” Shared money calls for a transparent agreement and separate accounts for personal spending.

The pair’s strengths

• Freedom without explanations and a partner who understands quirks
• Shared ideas, projects and circle of friends
• Mutual respect for convictions
• Friendship as the foundation of the relationship

Where the pair stumbles

• Both being stubborn in arguments over principles
• Withdrawal in a hard moment, with nobody speaking first
• Household tasks that neither finds interesting
• Little warmth alongside great respect

Advice for the pair

• Adopt a rule of daily tenderness, however small
• Ask each other “how are you, really?” on Sundays
• Keep a list of household tasks with owners and deadlines
• In a dispute over principles, try one person’s idea first, then the other’s

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